7 Secrets for an “Always-On” Positive Attitude
Inner positivity is the difference between accomplishing difficult tasks and giving up without a fight. It’s also the difference in how well you handle criticism and blowing up into a fit of rage.
Your day could be filled with plenty of scenarios such as –
- An office colleague making a joke about you in a light vein
- A family member pointing out all the tasks that you were supposed to do for the week
- A neighbor asking you to accept any mail on their behalf while they are away
Depending on how positive you are, you’ll overcome all the above situations with a smile and win over all your social interactions or you get to be the mean guy off the block that no one wants to talk to, thanks to your pessimistic nature.
Let’s learn how to turn on the positive switch within you and leave it on for good.
HOW A POSITIVE ATTITUDE CAN IMPROVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER
Can Positive Thinking Impact Your Health?
According to a statement by Deepak Chopra of CNN, “Positive thinking does indeed form a placebo effect in the minds of patients and aids in recovery”.
He states that when bad news is pronounced to a patient about his or her chances of survival, the patient immediately feels negative about themselves and gives up on any chance of survival that he or she might have had.
Medicine, when combined with positive thinking, has shown to heal a broken spirit – both internally and mentally.
The link between healing the body through positive thinking has to do with the connection of the mind and body.
Let’s take an example – In a study conducted on college students, some of them were given non-alcoholic beverages and were told that it was beer.
This experiment concluded with some of the patients feeling drunk at the end of it when it was simply their mind tricking them into believing they had consumed alcohol.
Here’s another example of Buddhist monks that practice meditation for years and were able to sync their mind and body into one being that was incapable of feeling pain even under the effects of severe heat and chilling cold.
A normal human would be dehydrated or accumulate frostbite in these respective conditions.
The following 2 studies demonstrate that positive thinking plays a critical role in medicine and that pills aren’t the only way to heal.
Positive Thinking Leads to Better Relationship
Let’s put it this way – if you are an angry person, the chances are highly likely that no one really finds you appealing and would just talk to you to get their work done.
However, if you were a person that is positive with encouraging words or someone who listens to others, you’ll be a life coach to many people wanting to find solace in your positivity.
Positivity for healthy relationships begins with forgiveness. A report from the American Psychological Association demonstrates that patients that put the effort into forgiving their wrongdoers went on to lead a healthy life both – mentally and physically.
This is because as we carry the burden of someone’s mistake in our head, it’s impossible to co-exist with positivity as we have visions of anger and revenge.
But the moment we let go of everything and simply forgive the person, we become better versions of ourselves by not having grudges.
To begin to forgive someone, we must take the first step of practicing empathy.
These simple tips will exorcize your negative demons and make you a more positive and forgiving person –
- When someone has done you wrong, immediately count to 10 without reacting
- Practice the art of deep breathing when you feel stressed about someone entering your life uninvited
- Always “journal” your negative thoughts in a book. Write down all your inner worries so you can put them on paper. You’ll be able to slowly deal with them once they are out of your mind.
- Forgiveness isn’t easy, and it takes a great deal of mental strain to forgive someone that has done you wrong. However, by forgiving them, you spare yourself from the mental pain.
- Betrayal comes in all shapes and sizes. If you’ve been let down by a close friend, simply move on with your life and never repeat the mistake of trusting them again.
- Remember the quote “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer”? Never reveal guarded secrets of your life at the whim of a moment, it could cost you.
- Anger is never the answer. There is always a peaceful solution. Always.
Positive Thinkers are Successful in Life
Have you ever heard of a billionaire or millionaire that made it big in life and was also a pessimist?
Neither did we.
That’s because success is synonymous with positive thoughts. It’s impossible to build success on a negative foundation.
While a negative individual will always have complaints in his or her life, a positive thinker will find new ways to better their lives, that’s why positivity pays off in your career and business.
If the head of a company has the confidence of a king, his employees are bound to be soaked in this positive energy and that’s where great work comes together. Positivity is contagious.
A mental attitude to get work done without thinking of the difficult road ahead is the secret formula for many successful people such as Mark Twain.
Here are a few tips to get the right energy flowing into you to ensure your success –
- Use “I can” often even if the job seems impossible at first. Mentally you’ll be prepared to finish it without room for excuses.
- Fear is a normal emotion. Even a Lion feels fear but it’s confident in its ability to hunt to bring down prey when the need arises. Go beyond your initial fear.
- Physical activity is a great way to clear your mind from negative experiences. Try running outdoors to clear your head.
- Read a few inspiring quotes daily to get your positivity flowing.
- Success or failure is a state of mind. If you hunger for success, then you’ll think positive.
- If you need to achieve a career goal. Close your eyes and visualize the future. Visualizing helps in achieving your milestones.
- Being physically healthy is just as important as being successful. Follow a nutritious regime and reject junk food.
- The only failure is when you begin to give up.
- Don’t always seek out perfection. Just aim to complete the job and improve on it to the best of your skill.
Now that we’ve understood the benefits of positivity in our lives. Let’s find out the secrets on how to introduce positivity into our life.
As we all know, climbing the first flight of stairs is always easy, it’s only until we reach the 5th flight, do we really wonder if we can make it all the way to the top while gasping for air.
Don’t worry we have you covered, we’ve compiled the information in a convenient way.
7 SECRETS THAT ADD POSITIVITY TO YOUR LIFE
Supercharging yourself with waves of positive influence doesn’t have to be a chore.
Simple fixes to your personality and lifestyle bring out the new positive personality out of you.
Think of positivity as a defense shield against a mirage of problems – failure, pessimism, anger, criticism, disappointment, heartbreak, etc.
With these 7 tweaks, you’ll be safeguarding and rejuvenating your confidence every step of the way.
1. Leading a Proactive Life
The term proactive actively translates into – taking responsibility for your actions and anticipating life’s problems.
Imagine if you had a superpower that allowed you to peek into the future and weigh your options in the present – wouldn’t that influence you to avoid problems and steer your way towards success.
This superpower is an innate ability that lies dormant in all of us, through positivity and a proactive lifestyle we can awaken these clairvoyant powers.
These Following 5 Tips Will Help You Lead a Proactive Life
When was the last time you accepted your mistake and apologized?
If it’s been a while, then it’s time to take full responsibility for your mistakes. “To err is human” – this quote signifies that every human being is built to make mistakes along his journey.
Don’t waste time blaming others even if you aren’t the one at fault. Learn to never commit these mistakes again and take every failure as a stepping stone.
Question Yourself Often
To know if you’re taking a good decision, you’ll need the power of your mind to ask you questions before you execute them.
This is the way to predict if you’re going to be successful in life or not. For example –
What am I doing with my life?
Should I consider switching jobs at this point in my life or is there something more to learn?
Am I happy in the job that I perform?
Is there more to life for me?
Should I be looking at other options? Maybe a career, change?
The above series of questions are examples of the type of personal questions you should be framing to yourself.
Never leave things to fate and always reconsider your decisions.
It’s easier to take 2 minutes to rethink than regret an entire lifetime for a silly decision you made.
Take Control of the Steering Wheel of Your Life
Often, we refuse to change ourselves no matter how negatively our life is impacting us.
For example, we refuse to kick bad habits like smoking or maybe we are stubborn alcoholics, maybe there’s a bad addiction that we are unable to shake off.
This part is called “Losing control of the steering wheel”. The steering wheel is a metaphor for willpower.
To get our hands back on the steering wheel, we need to first ask ourselves what we are missing from our lives and gain it back. Such as –
- A clean bill of health
Adding what you are missing in life is how you take control of the wheel by being in the driver’s seat again.
Forget all the missed opportunities and work towards creating fresh opportunities to sort things out.
Plan Your Goals in 5-year or 10-year Terms
Every plan requires nurturing and a significant amount of time to see results.
Therefore, never aim for a life goal with a short-term to achieve it like – 6-months to a year.
If you haven’t seen success lately, it’s time to create a plan and write down your milestones that you can attain easily.
Think of life as a 2-hour movie with a great beginning and an exhilarating end.
In this case, you need to plan out your life like a movie – start strong, add in the plot points, then the drama, fill in the character sheet, and finally, the climactic ending.
A 5 or 10-year development plan should include all these steps –
- Defining your milestones and your end goal
- Setting up a deadline for every milestone in time format (E.g. 2 months to finish programming course basics)
- List down your strengths and weaknesses
- Focus on your strengths
- Limit your weaknesses
- Take support from role models or family
- Measure your progress
- Develop additional skillsets
- Grab opportunities by the wing
- Identify and isolate threats
- Prioritize your goals in the order from highest to lowest
- Schedule your development plan
Once you’ve got your development plan written down.
Each year you’ll be able to record and compare your progress with your vision.
You’ll have a fair idea on how your progress is coming along.
Remember, positivity only assists your journey but taking action brings your closer to your goals.
Invest in Knowledge
One of the most important rules to lead a proactive life is by investing in knowledge before you begin to invest in other money schemes.
Here’s a question for you – If you had $100 and had no skillset, would you –
A. Choose to invest the $100 in your friend’s shop
B. Invest it by buying an online course of your preferred skillset
C. Invest in buying new shoes and clothes
The appropriate answer is – B. By investing in a skill set, you get the maximum value for your money through knowledge.
You’ll have an active skillset that can be converted into an earning model. While the other 2 options have little to no value.
Positivity is about investing in yourself and realizing that when you’re worth something, you’ll be able to do much more for your future.
When you’re clueless about your money, always invest in knowledge.
2. Practicing the Art of Gratitude
Researcher Dr. Martin E.P. Seligman submitted a report on a study he had conducted on 411 people about the effects of positivity being linked to gratitude.
In the study, the participants were asked to send a letter of gratitude to the people they had never thanked before for a past act of kindness.
The test results proved that there was a large impact in the overall happiness score after the individuals sent out their letters. The impact of the happiness would last over a month.
Saying “Thank You” isn’t just about reciprocating your gratitude to your fellowmen, it’s about nurturing good etiquettes and a positive vibe around you.
People who show gratitude have the following benefits restored to their life –
- Improved relationships
- Increased self-esteem
- Boost positive emotions
- Enhance mental well-being
- Better romantic relationships
- Long-lasting friendships
- Increased social-support
- Lowers stress and reduces suicidal tendencies
- Being content with life
All these benefits are free by just saying two words.
If you haven’t been grateful lately, it’s time to begin by saying “thank you” to at least one person every week.
Be grateful to someone holding out a door for you or your office mate offering to drop you home.
You could even say “thanks” to your colleague for reminding you about something important.
Gratitude helps with nurturing positivity for you and to the person you are grateful for. Two smiles for the price of two words!
3. Limit Social-Media and Entertainment
We get it that you can’t unplug yourself from Facebook and Instagram as it’s your own mystical portal to a world filled with charm, friendships, and a whole lot of fun.
However, too much sugar in your pie can ruin your taste buds. We mean don’t refrain from using social-media completely instead limit your time.
Social media can be fun when used within limitations and rules but once you’re addicted to posting every bit of your personal information and take criticism of strangers strongly, it can begin to impact your emotions in a negative way.
Take for example, you’ve been to the Eiffel Tower on your trip to France and have just taken a terrific photo in front of it, the moment you upload the photo on Facebook, you’ll usually spend a good part of your time refreshing to see the number of likes and comments you’ve got instead of actually having a good time in Paris.
A study by Psycom has proven that there has been an increase of depressive episode among adolescents from 2005 to 2014 directly influenced by social media.
Comparisons and online bullying are one of the biggest reasons to impact youngsters and this begins to affect them right through their adulthood.
The internet is a mixed bag with fun interactive conversations to harsh judgments by strangers.
To say the least, positivity will only be restored if you spend more hours of your waking time in reality than in a virtual environment allowing others to judge your life.
Here are a few ways to limit social media –
- Apps such as OFFTIME and AppDetox help curb your time online on your mobile devices
- Set an alarm to remind you every 30-minutes to ensure you don’t overextend your social-media time
- Identify all social media platforms that you’ve visited and the time that you’ve browsed them using your phone settings. You’ll have a good idea on which platform utilizes the most of your time and make changes accordingly to limit it.
- Turn off “Notifications”. A prime reason why people browse their phones is due to phone interruptions.
- Take short walks in the open without carrying any smart devices, it will help clear your mind and rejuvenate your positive energy
4. Don’t be Afraid of Failure
Most of us lose our positive vibes the moment we hit a roadblock called “Failure”. Suddenly, all the positivity that lasted a month is gone and we are back to the drawing board.
Our mind makes us believe that it’s impossible to bounce back from failure and our confidence has taken a massive hit.
So how do we truly renew ourselves and keep our motivation in check through a bout of failure?
Here are a few ways.
- Convert your failure into numbers or understandable words. Say you’ve failed a test or taken a massive beating in the stock market, it’s time to evaluate your options and focus on how to make a positive impact on your life. Start by identifying the mistakes that you’ve made and ensure you never repeat them by writing them down. Execute a “Plan B” and come up with a new and improved plan. No one hits the ball out of the park the first time, it takes trial and error to attain perfection.
- Realign your perspective. Sometimes failure happens because we aren’t in the right mindset. If your mind is clouded by fear, you’ll always be close to failure as you aren’t fully committed to the action. Instead, if you changed your mindset and believed that you’ll achieve success, you’ll commit 100% to the plan and will do your best, therefore you have a high percentage of success.
- Forgive yourself. If you don’t forgive yourself for your failures, you’ll always hate yourself and what you’ve become. This is a dangerous road as it ends up with self-loathing. Take a moment to forgive yourself and smile. Forgive yourself every night before going to bed for all the wrongs of the day, this will help you wake up to a brand-new day. In this way, you’ll take things in life one day at a time instead of pulling the weight of your past.
5. Gain Inspiration
Have you ever watched a movie that felt so real to your life and in the end inspired you to get things done?
Positivity lies in the inspiration of others who’ve walked the road that you’re currently walking.
By reading simple quotes, one can experience inspiration and a positive mindset.
Here are 5 quotes to show you what we mean.
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” — Willie Nelson
“I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.” — Walt Disney
“Don’t Let Yesterday Take Up Too Much of Today.” – Will Rogers
“It’s Not Whether You Get Knocked Down, It’s Whether You Get Up.” – Vince Lombardi
“Failure Will Never Overtake Me If My Determination to Succeed Is Strong Enough.” – Og Mandino
These powerful quotes instill confidence and will push you further each day to achieve when you feel your energy draining.
That’s why reading a single quote every morning will add a lot of positivity to your life and it’s a wonderful practice to get into.
Another way to gain inspiration is by reading the autobiographies of successful people.
Homeschool World has an article on how introducing biographies to young kids helps them choose their career much before their teenage years and will set them up for an exciting future.
Many kids relate to aspiring professions such as a physician, writer, nurse, attorney, trader, poet, etc. A biography of a successful person helps in achieving a self-purpose for yourself as well as for your career.
6. Value Your Time
“Time is a gift that most of us take for granted.” – Cheryl Richardson
Time is an essence that once spent can never be gotten again.
Money, assets, and success are all a result of time.
Hence, it’s of utmost importance on how you plan your time in order to attain a permanent positive mentality in your life.
Many people spend time in various ways not knowing it’s being wasted –
Do you spend time arguing with people till they see your point of view?
Do you go out of your way to do things for people who are ungrateful to you?
Do you often get angry and frustrated at people?
Do you spend most of your time regretting the decisions of your past?
If you’ve answered “Yes” to even one of the above questions, you are undoubtedly wasting copious amounts of time that could otherwise be used in the right direction.
Time management is an important concept and one that is core to a positive life.
By managing your daily tasks, you’ll create a routine that you can abide by and get more done in a day than you ever managed in a week.
You’ll also enhance your reputation for getting work done and will be able to manage your priorities and obligations in the right way.
Here Are 2 Ways to Manage Your Time Efficiently
Estimate the value of your time.
If you make $2000 per week and work for 5 days. Then that’s $2000/5 days = $400 per day. So, if you work for 10 hours a day, you are effectively worth = $40/per hour. Now that you’ve understood how to calculate your worth for every hour, you’ll understand exactly how much income is being lost by not being productive for your time spent.
From here you can choose to increase your minimum wages per hour or put in more hours to increase your total worth. Calculating your time is incredibly important as you’ll know exactly how much money you are losing per month on inefficient tasks and cut them out of your life.
Evaluate all your competitors.
Whether you are a business owner or an employee, it’s necessary to have data from your competitors with you.
Comparing your data with your competitors will give you a rough idea on whether you are ahead of the race or behind the race.
Let’s say you are a business owner and you’ve just managed to pull profit data that states your competitor is ahead due to better advertising campaigns.
By increasing your own advertising campaigns, you’ll accomplish far more for your company in a year than in 5 years. This is time management as an entrepreneur.
As an employee, you’ll be able to compare your wages with other companies to get a fair estimation of what your worth is on the job market.
With this data, you’ll be able to negotiate a deal with your current company or move on to greener pastures for better pay. Effectively increasing your finances and valuing your time and career choice.
With these simple tweaks to your time management, you’ll be happy in your career and understand how much you are worth.
7. Spread Love Through Community Service
One of the best ways to reap positivity is by contributing to society and by putting a smile on people’s faces.
Not only will you receive a rewarding experience, but it will make you feel better when you sleep at night.
Here are a few ways you can provide support for your community and help people.
Provide Nutritious Food to the Homeless
Nothing says positivity and happiness like giving unfortunate people a belly full of nutritious food. You can either cook your own food and provide bundles of food to the homeless or enroll at a community food kitchen and serve out bowls of piping hot food to those less unfortunate.
Starting a Blog to Help Others
Many people require help with various things on the internet. By starting a community blog and sharing your talent, you’ll help people.
A blog helps you start a community such as tailoring, cooking, nursing, makeup, DIY, etc. there are plenty of ideas to help people out and you’ll be rewarded with gratitude by plenty of happy souls.
Make a Donation
Many charities in and around your neighborhood could require financial aid to help people. You can donate clothes, money, and any household goods to these places.
Become a Teacher
You can provide online courses or enroll at an educational facility to provide classes for people willing to learn. You might be good at programming, software, computer skills, or fashion designing, there is always room for more teachers in the world.
You’ll be a role model for plenty of students and they will always share their positivity with a smile and a great big “Thank You”.
Suicide Prevention Helpline
Many depressed individuals are usually lonely and require support from other people. You could offer to enroll as a specialist in offering support to people who are distraught.
A simple phone conversation can provide support and you’ll be saving plenty of lives in the long run.
For every life that you save, you’ll have the credit of being the person responsible for changing their lives forever.
Helping people is often the best way to get in touch with our positive side.
Humans are social beings and often spend time conversing and solving each other’s problems.
But with modern technology added, it’s becoming increasingly difficult for people to find time out of their private lives and provide community service.
FINAL THOUGHTS ON MAINTAINING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
Positivity isn’t gained from just one single source and maintaining it requires you to break old negative habits and rewire yourself to a positive approach.
Our minds are powerful enough to come out of any disaster and we can mentally heal ourselves by living with a positive attitude.
Once you’ve lived a positive life, it’s time to pass on the benefits to the next person and welcome them into a world of positivity.
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